PRIVATE MARRIAGE INTENSIVE
One Weekend Can Change Your Life and Relationship
3-Day Private Intensive Schedule
Marriage Intensivs have been found to be the most effective way to heal and restore a couple’s marriage. Many couples coming into a Marriage Intensive are hurting, discouraged and have lost hope. Marriage Intensives are specifically designed for couples in crisis to rebuild trust and restore their love for one another.
We provide a safe, accepting and nurturing space to begin the work of identifying root causes of your marital distress. We assess the dynamics and issues and develop a comprehensive customized treatment plan for each of you as individuals and as a couple. You will learn how to deepen your connection, increase communication through empathy and listening, and understand and value your differences. You will also learn to resolve conflicts, restore trust, change dynamics and patterns, reduce blame, and move through impasses and gridlocks.
During an intensive, couples are usually able to resolve 85% to 95% of their hurts and learn how to handle similar situations in the future. By the end of the intensive couples are equipped to return home with valuable insight, powerful tools and researched proven techniques and principles to apply in their daily lives.
Marriage Intensives are ideal for the busy professional who would rather get down to the root quickly rather than take several months for local one hour a week counseling. Marriage Intensives allow couples to escape the distractions of work, children, computer, cell phones, etc. so that spouses can give their undivided attention to each other and to healing their marriage. This time is also extremely helpful for couples who may be on the verge of separation or divorce or in severe pain. Often couples want to give the marriage one last try before making any decisions.
OUR APPROACH TO RELATIONSHIP DISTRESS
Relationships can be challenging and even painful at times. Relationships suffer when there’s too much conflict, fighting, and resentment – and sometimes the walls go up with emotional and physical distance. The powerful feelings we experience in distressed relationships are universal. We may react with blame, anger and shutting down. Then our spouse or partner reacts to the anger and distance, and this creates a relationship “dance”. A dance that is all too familiar. The specific problem areas that we address in our retreats and workshops include:
- Conflict, power struggles, and angry escalations
- Patterns of complaining, blaming, and defensive reactions
- Shutting down, distancing, and lack of communication
- Emotional and physical disconnection – the “emotional divorce”
- Intimacy and sexual problems
- Infidelity and affairs (including problems like “sexual addiction”)
- Trust issues, insecurities, feelings of betrayal
All Private Couples Retreats include the following individually designed components:
Couple Assessment – The couple describe their relationship history, how and when problems emerged. Specific problem areas are identified, discussed and explored. Each partner describes their view of the relationship and specific problems. During this discussion, relationship patterns are revealed and identified. Underlying feelings and needs are discussed. Couples complete questionnaires which are discussed and reviewed.
Individual Sessions – Private session with each partner to review personal and family history. These sessions also help counselors to deepen their understanding of each partner. Review and Feedback – After the individual sessions, we review and discuss problem areas relationship patterns. The goal of this session is to make sure we’re all on the same page – we agree on the specific, unique goals for each couple, and we reach agreement on the way we see the problems and the relationship patterns.
Coaching and Exercises – Relationship coaching actually begins during the assessment stage. Hasasni provide’s ongoing feedback, and guide couples toward a deeper understanding and expression of feelings, beliefs, and needs. The most intense aspects of the coaching process occur on Saturday. Exercises are used to help couples explore each other’s attachment (relationship) style, emotional reactions and needs. Couples are guided to practice emotionally corrective conversations (a deeper level of emotional expression, active listening, and responding to each other with empathy and compassion). Other exercises include communication tools, methods for fighting fair, creating new solutions, and loving touch, affection and connection.
Creating the New Relationship – Each couple creates a description – a written narrative – for the “new” relationship they develop as a result of this program. This narrative includes a history of the relationship, how and why problems developed, and a description of their healing process, their new, loving and supportive relationship dance, and their new approach to partnership and problem-solving.
“”My husband and I are doing fantastic!! And I am not exaggerating. We have reached a great place in our marriage. I am so thankful that we stuck it out and sought you out as a counselor. We fight less, have short recovery time, and have so many great and enjoyable moments together. I am amazed that we are at such a great place in our relationship. We are so thankful because it hasn’t always been like this. We have had to fight to get here, and I am so glad we did!”
– feedback from an intensive couple
Please Click On The Following Questions For More Details
What are some common indicators for enrolling in the Couples Academy Marriage Intensive?
(If one or more of the following statements apply to you, we recommend that you consider the Intensive.)
- I often feel angry, resentful, embarrassed or depressed.
- My partner and I are unemotional and disconnected from each other.
- My partner and Iexperience the constant threat of divorce.
- The pain of infidelity has struck our relationship.
- We are in constant conflict regarding both major and minor issues.
- There are major trust issues in our marriage that we cannot overcome.
- We have lost our physical intimacy in the marriage.
- My partner and I have grown apart and share very little in common.
- Our confrontations have gotten physical and I no longer feel safe.
- I’ve lost my identity and the ability to truly express myself in the relationship.
- There are inappropriate relationships that are maintain with opposite-sex friends that put the marriage at risk.
- We have major conflict over finances.
- I see myself passing my own suffering on to my children.
Is the Marriage Intensive a form of counseling?
What are the possible outcomes of participating in the Process?
What’s the daily schedule during the Intensive?
Who presents the Intensive and how is it conducted?
Is the Couples Academy Marriage Intensive anonymous?
What clothing will I need? Should I bring other materials or personal items?
Listening device: You will be given mp3 recordings on it for your use throughout the 3 days and during the post-Process weekend. Bring aphone and headphones to use during the week of your Intensive.Other items: Alarm clock. If you normally write on a laptop or tablet device, you are welcome to bring it for the writing assignments during the week of the Intensive; the writing is for your personal use and you will not need a printer.
What are the restrictions during the Intensive?
What is the cost and how do I enroll?
Are payment plans available for the Marriage Intensive?
Where is the Marriage Intensive held?
What is the location for a Private Marriage Intensive?
Once the date is secured is their pre-work?
Once the Intensive is complete do you offer after-care services?
We prefer payment by check, but credit cards are accepted. Half of the fee is due after scheduling, the balance is due ten days before the intensive begins. Cancellations are charged a $250 administration fee.
SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE
TO BOOK A PRIVATE MARRIAGE INTENSIVE CONTACT COUPLES ACADEMY BY PHONE AT 678.220.8996.