Marriage Intensives

Private Marriage Intensives

Private Marriage Intensives (PMI) are designed for couples who want results now. We offer three formats to accommodate every couple’s schedule. Each process is uniquely different but all are designed to conquer conflict, improve communication, build intimacy and achieve restoration in your marriage. The total investment for all three programs is $3997.00

The Weekly Intensive

Five 4-hour sessions spread out over the course of 5 weeks.

The Weekend Intensive

Three consecutive days totaling 20 hours. Great for couples with scheduling issues.

The Accelerated Intensive

Two days totaling 16 hours with a 4-hour follow-up. For couples who may travel.

Compare the investment for PMI to the $15,000-$20,000 average cost of divorce in the US. And that doesn’t begin to factor in the other emotional pain of a deteriorating relationship.

The Private Marriage Intensive Experience

Marriage Intensives have been found to be the most effective way to heal and restore a couple’s marriage. Many couples coming into a Marriage Intensive are hurting, discouraged and have lost hope. Marriage Intensives are specifically designed for couples in crisis to rebuild trust and restore their love for one another.

 

We provide a safe, accepting and nurturing space to begin the work of identifying root causes of your marital distress. We assess the dynamics and issues and develop a comprehensive customized treatment plan for each of you as individuals and as a couple. You will learn how to deepen your connection, increase communication through empathy and listening, and understand and value your differences. You will also learn to resolve conflicts, restore trust, change dynamics and patterns, reduce blame, and move through impasses and gridlocks. By the end of the intensive couples are equipped to return home with valuable insight, powerful tools and researched proven techniques and principles to apply in their daily lives.

Marriage Intensives are ideal for the busy professional who would rather get down to the root quickly rather than take several months for local one hour a week counseling. Marriage Intensives allow couples to escape the distractions of work, children, computer, cell phones, etc. so that spouses can give their undivided attention to each other and to healing their marriage. This time is also extremely helpful for couples who may be on the verge of separation or divorce or in severe pain. Often couples want to give the marriage one last try before making any decisions.

Our Approach to relationship distress

Relationships can be challenging and even painful at times. Relationships suffer when there’s too much conflict, fighting, and resentment – and sometimes the walls go up with emotional and physical distance. The powerful feelings we experience in distressed relationships are universal. We may react with blame, anger and shutting down. Then our spouse or partner reacts to the anger and distance, and this creates a relationship “dance”. A dance that is all too familiar. The specific problem areas that we address in our retreats and workshops include:

  • Conflict, power struggles, and angry escalations
  • Patterns of complaining, blaming, and defensive reactions
  • Shutting down, distancing, and lack of communication
  • Emotional and physical disconnection – the “emotional divorce”
  • Intimacy and sexual problems
  • Infidelity and affairs (including problems like “sexual addiction”)
  • Trust issues, insecurities, feelings of betrayal

All Private Couples Retreats Include The Following Individually Designed Components:

Couple Assessment

The couple describe their relationship history, how and when problems emerged. Specific problem areas are identified, discussed and explored. Each partner describes their view of the relationship and specific problems. During this discussion, relationship patterns are revealed and identified. Underlying feelings and needs are discussed. Couples complete questionnaires which are discussed and reviewed.

Individual Sessions

Private session with each partner to review personal and family history. These sessions also help counselors to deepen their understanding of each partner. Review and Feedback – After the individual sessions, we review and discuss problem areas relationship patterns. The goal of this session is to make sure we’re all on the same page – we agree on the specific, unique goals for each couple, and we reach agreement on the way we see the problems and the relationship patterns.

Coaching and Exercises

Relationship coaching actually begins during the assessment stage. Hasasni provide’s ongoing feedback, and guide couples toward a deeper understanding and expression of feelings, beliefs, and needs. The most intense aspects of the coaching process occur on Saturday. Exercises are used to help couples explore each other’s attachment (relationship) style, emotional reactions and needs. Couples are guided to practice emotionally corrective conversations (a deeper level of emotional expression, active listening, and responding to each other with empathy and compassion). Other exercises include communication tools, methods for fighting fair, creating new solutions, and loving touch, affection and connection.

Creating the New Relationship

Each couple creates a description – a written narrative – for the “new” relationship they develop as a result of this program. This narrative includes a history of the relationship, how and why problems developed, and a description of their healing process, their new, loving and supportive relationship dance, and their new approach to partnership and problem-solving.

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What are some common indicators for enrolling in the Couples Academy Marriage Intensive?

If one or more of the following statements apply to you, we recommend that you consider the Intensive.

 

  • I often feel angry, resentful, embarrassed or depressed.
  • My partner and I are unemotional and disconnected from each other.
  • My partner and Iexperience the constant threat of divorce.
  • The pain of infidelity has struck our relationship.
  • We are in constant conflict regarding both major and minor issues.
  • There are major trust issues in our marriage that we cannot overcome.
  • We have lost our physical intimacy in the marriage.
  • My partner and I have grown apart and share very little in common.
  • Our confrontations have gotten physical and I no longer feel safe.
  • I’ve lost my identity and the ability to truly express myself in the relationship.
  • There are inappropriate relationships that are maintain with opposite-sex friends that put the marriage at risk.
  • We have major conflict over finances.
  • I see myself passing my own suffering on to my children.

Is the marriage intensive a form of counseling?

The Couples Academy Marriage Intensive is not intended to be a substitute for counseling. Many people have reported the Intensive to be an important adjunct to their counseling experience. The Intensive is designed as a comprehensive coaching program that provides the necessary knowledge, tools and skill sets to restore and transform your marriage. Our marriage intensive is equivalent to 6 months of counseling.

What are the possible outcomes?

Through the Intensive Process, you will come to know yourself emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and relationally as never before. The Intensive offers deep and rapid resolution of relationship issues and enables you to come to terms with life as it is. You can recover the love, understanding, and passion you once had, and emerge as a renewed powerful and fulfilled couple.

What’s the daily schedule during the Intensive?

The Marriage Intensive is conducted as a 5 week, 3-day or 2-day comprehensive program. The days are full and structured with group and individual sessions, couples connect (structured assignments are given), and ample time for breakfast, lunch and dinner.We strongly recommend that you spend the two days following the Intensive as time for personal reflection and implementation.

Who presents the Intensive and how is it conducted?

Hasani Pettiford is the primary coach. He provides instruction and personalized individual guidance to ensure that each partner progresses successfully through the Intensive and learns tools for ongoing development. The Intensive is designed to be a safe and supportive environment. We combine the best of individual and couple work to support your relational journey, which is the core of the work.

Is the Couples Academy Marriage Intensive anonymous?

Your safety and integrity is of the upmost importance to us. All participants are asked to sign confidentiality agreements on arrival and all details are kept completely confidential.

What clothing will I need? Should I bring other materials or personal items?

You are highly recommended to be as casual as possible. Bring comfortable and casual clothing for 3 days (jeans, t-shirts, sneakers, etc.) Additional equipment that will be helpful are tablets, laptops. Bring a phone and headphones during your stay in order to listen to mp3 recordings. You are also welcomed to bring notebooks and pens for writing assignments.

What are the restrictions during the Intensive?

Participants are required to refrain from alcoholic beverages and non-prescription mood altering drugs. During the Intensive we ask you to fully focus on the work at hand. Plan not to make or receive calls or emails. Of course, if an urgent need arises on either end, you can reach your family member or they can reach you through Couples Academy.

What is the cost and how do i enroll?

Tuition for the Couples Academy Marriage Intensive is $3,997. A $500 non-refundable, non-transferable deposit is required to reserve your space. We accept Visa, MasterCard, and American Express, money orders as well as personal checks. Couples normally schedule an intensive on an “as needed basis” and dates are typically secured within 14 days of the initial call.

Are payment plans available for the marriage intensive?

Couples Academy offers a payment plan on an as-needed and as-available basis. The plan requires that 50% of the total tuition (including the nominal processing fee), be paid before the start of the course. The remaining 50% can be paid within 60 days of the intensive.The course is $3997. A deposit of $1801 is required which consists of a 50% deposit of $1998.50 and a 2.9% processing fee of $58. The remaining balance of $1998.50 is divided into easy payments due within 60 days of the intensive. You will also receive ongoing group After-Care Sessions beginning the following week after the Intensive. While in group After-Care you and your partner can then decide whether to resume normal weekly sessions at the normal rate of $150 per session.

What is the location for a private marriage intensive?

There are two options when considering the location of your private marriage intensive. A) Couples can travel to the Greater Atlanta Georgia area. We partner with a few choice hotels in the area. B) If travel costs, work schedules or child-care issues prevent you from attending, Hasani with travel to your state to conduct the intensive. A $375 travel stipend is required (which covers the cost of flight and ground transportation). In addition, lodging must be provided. Couples Academy will choose the hotel location to ensure the best rates available. Whether the 3-day experience is conducted in Atlanta or in your home state, all sessions are held in the suite area of the hotel room. A comfortable home-like environment is best suited for the intensive.

Once the date is secured is there pre-work?

Once you secure a date, you will be provided with all of the necessary paperwork to get started. Once complete, we will schedule a 120-minute Pre-Intensive video session. The virtual meeting will provide an opportunity for both you, your partner and the coach to discuss specific relationship issues and set goals and objectives for the 3-day Intensive.

Once the intensive is complete do you offer aftercare services?

After the Intensive, you will receive 14-days of complimentary Crisis Coaching. Once you return home you may need help properly implementing the information you received. The two-week adjustment period allows you to contact your coach via phone, text, email and video on an ‘as-needed’ basis. You and your partner have the ability to ask any question and deal with any issue. Once the two weeks have concluded it is frequently necessary for couples to continue their work with a coach/counselor on an ongoing basis in order to consolidate the gains they have made during the Couples Academy Private Marriage Intensive weekend. You will automatically be enrolled in our on-going group aftercare sessions. If private sessions are needed all sessions are conducted via zoom or teleconference call at a rate of $175 per 60-minute session.

Sign up with Couples Academy

If you are interested in any of the programs offered through Couples Academy please complete the form below, email info@couplesacademy.org or call (678) 200-8996.