How to Stop Obsessing Over the Other Woman
You don’t want to think about her. But she’s there, in quiet moments, in the shower, at 2 a.m., in the middle of a normal Tuesday. You fantasize about confronting her. You compare yourself to her. And then you feel a little crazy for how much space she’s taking up in your head. Here’s the […]
Cheating and Love Cannot Coexist — Here’s Why
He’s crying. He’s saying he loves you, that he always has. And you’re sitting there thinking: if that’s true, how did you do this to me? Here’s the direct answer: a person can still feel love, attachment, or affection for you and cheat. Feeling love isn’t the same as practicing it. Cheating breaks the honesty, […]
I’m Not Attracted to My Wife Anymore. Porn Did That.
Losing attraction to your spouse while pornography use has become frequent or difficult to control does not automatically mean something is wrong with your spouse. Research suggests that problematic pornography use can be associated with changes in sexual satisfaction, partnered sexual functioning, and sexual motivation for some people. Those patterns can change, but there is […]
Stop Calling it a ‘Mistake’ — Why Minimizing the Affair Destroys Trust
He calls it a mistake. You keep hearing something closer to a plan. Here’s the direct answer: the word “mistake” isn’t the real problem. What it’s being used to avoid is. A mistake is something that happens by accident. An affair happens through a sequence of choices: creating opportunity, hiding it, lying about it, sometimes […]
3 Non-Negotiable Rules to Earn Respect Back
She says she forgives you. She just doesn’t look at you the same way anymore. You’ve apologized more times than you can count, and somehow it hasn’t moved the needle at all. Here’s the direct answer: trust and respect aren’t the same thing, and you can’t buy either one with an apology. Trust is about […]
My Husband Still Works With the Woman He Cheated With
He says the affair is over. But every morning, he gets dressed and goes back to the place where she still is. Here’s the direct answer: him still working with her doesn’t automatically mean the affair is continuing. But if the job can’t change right away, something else has to. What matters isn’t whether he […]
I’m Obsessed With Checking His Phone: How Do I Stop?
You told yourself you’d stop after the first month. Then after the first “clean” check. Then after he handed you the phone willingly and there was nothing there. And you’re still doing it, twenty times a day sometimes, hating yourself a little more each time you reach for it. Here’s the direct answer: You can’t […]
Understanding Infidelity
A Complete Resource To Understanding Infidelity Let’s talk about something that is surprising—and sadly—common throughout the world. Most people know about infidelity and may even have unfaithfulness in your own relationship. Too often, infidelity causes upheaval in relationships and marriages, bringing about divorce. However, with the right tools and therapy, couples can heal from infidelity […]
What’s Emotional Cheating? Signs of Emotional Affairs
When you hear about someone cheating or having an affair, you often believe that someone cheated sexually. However, there is more than one form of infidelity out there. Did you know that emotional infidelity is also common? Cheating on someone is not always a physical encounter. It can also be a complex tangle of emotions […]
What Can A Cheater Do To Regain Trust?
There is no easy way to overcome infidelity. Of healing the hurts that have been opened up because of one person’s actions. Infidelity can leave both partners feeling like they are teetered over the edge of a cliff. There is a lot of uncertainty going on, but if you want to save the relationship, much […]